I recently read a post on the More Genealogy and there was one sentence that hit home with me. That one sentence. “I cannot understand why some of us are so reluctant to share our information.”
Why do most people hord their findings, family photos from others. I have been using Ancestry.com since 2014 and for the most it has treated me well but for some reason when you find a family tree that house some of the names your are researching, you send a polite message and play a waiting game in hopes of receiving a reply with help, information you had not known or the hidden treasure of a photo of a relative, yet we have reservations or maybe its hard to bare handing over family infomation. I have sent out thirty-one messages and twenty have yet to respond back. The few that have responded have all been of great help and one turned out to be a second cousin.
Maybe we are quiet, shy and reserved in our way, I know I was growing up until I started working at a restaurant where I was employed for almost twelve years, I had to speak to the customers. Infact, not to toot my own horn but I would have a gentleman that would drive once a month from Texas and buy three gallons of my chilli and the local law enforcement would only have pie and coffee if I was not on duty. That kind of told me something. The other cooks did not care. Maybe that is why some of us will not share our information, we simply do not care about the struggles that others are having tracking/finding family members.
“If thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink” Romans 12:20
Genealogy has to be thought of like open source software where everyone benefits from the sharing of knowledge and resources that help many, not just one. Another way of looking at it is like the cliche, “You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours”. As the pictorial above depicts, collaborating and sharing resources not with just one but many is one of the keys of unlocking the vault that houses treasures like photos or stories of a second great grandparent or a fourth cousin.